Neill Neill

Why is it so hard to say no?

Hope and Happiness

Focus on what you want and make it a habit

Hope and Happiness

The need for control

There is good control and also its less positive cousin

Turn the past into simple history

The relationship between your past and present is complex

A man needs good, close friends

Hope and happiness

Feeling ungrounded after a disaster

The earthquake and tsunami in Japan have led to a huge loss of human life. We’ve all been glued to our televisions as the news has unfolded. Put whatever label on it you want, but the catastrophic events in Japan have been leaving a lot of us feeling ungrounded.

Is it marital peace or a marital truce?

Chronic unhappiness is not mandatory

Wooed by a narcissist?

In Greek mythology Narcissus was a handsome, proud man who disdained those who loved him. He fell in love with his own beautiful reflection in a pool, and because he couldn’t stop looking at it, he starved to death.

A marriage past the point of no return

One time in a land far away, a client asked me if I could help her save her 15-year marriage. Her husband was threatening to leave her, was stonewalling and was generally emotionally cold, but she said he was willing to see me. I worked with him for several months, and they stayed together.